*1. THE AMAZEMENT STAGE: According to research, this is the most enjoyable period in the lives of every couple. The wow stage. Days of discoveries between couples mostly newly married ones. The newness, the freshness is so amazing. Sleeping on the same bed, wearing the same attire, cooking for him, doing house chores with her, bathing together. Wearing your dazzling wedding ring everywhere, turning people's heads at the newest couple around. Loads and lots of fun. Sexual exploration and excitement. Being in control of your kitchen, feeding him and lots more. It's the honeymoon stage and it's so so beautiful.
Sometimes we refer to this stage as a moment of blindness.

*2. THE IRRITATION STAGE: This is the stage when you begin to notice weaknesses you have overlooked or blissfully wish they go away but they didn't. The repetition of such weaknesses begins to work on your nerves and you are getting irritated: he snores a lot, she is slow in the kitchen, she belches loudly, he screams unnecessarily, she won't bathe before coming to bed or shave, he spends many hours watching football and ignores you when you talk. "What's just wrong with this guy?" You think aloud, well it's part of marriage. But don't regret the marriage for even the one you wish to have married has his/her own weaknesses.

*3. THE ANGER STAGE: In this stage, you realized that the repetition of such weaknesses gets on your nerves and you display your anger. The introverted partners stuff it in and either keep malice, avoid you or stubbornly continue with the irritating habit. The next thing is to start asking yourself: "have I really married the wrong guy?" "Have I married the wrong woman?" No, you did not, you are simply going through a phase together. If at all there is a need for marriage advice it shouldn't be from friends but from the ministers of religion and from experts in the field of marriage counseling.
*4. THE RESOLUTION STAGE: When you both begin to face the reality of marriage and acknowledge your partner's weaknesses. You eventually realize anger and malice does not solve any problem and begin to find ways to deal with your differences, both of you begin to compromise here and there and adjust to each other.

*5. THE ACCEPTANCE STAGE: When it dawned on you that some things are just part of your partner and may never change. You resigned from anger, abuse and quarrel and choose to accept them, lovingly adjust to them and enjoy them regardless of their weaknesses.

*6. THE RESTFUL STAGE: This is the stage you permanently accept them with all their strengths, weaknesses, shortcomings and flaws and love them unconditionally regardless of what they do. This is real ❤️, agape, divine and true. You reconnect emotionally, spiritually and physically at a deeper level and enjoy honeymoon again while building a lasting marriage regardless of the challenges you face.


The truth you need to know is this: "there is no perfect marriage. Every marriage goes through these stages. How you handle it will determine if you will come out bitter or better. You don't have to abuse your spouse or keep malice if God is at the centre of your home and you obey the word of God daily. Nevertheless, do not be disappointed if you go through the unpleasant stages in a marriage. It is a phase and will surely end. But don't fold your hands and wait for the end you have to sit up, do something about it, commit it into the hands of God for he is the God of peace and progress he must do something good in return.

Ask God for wisdom in your marriage, never you stop loving regardless of the challenges you face. That is what will make your marriage a heaven on earth experience.

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