THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY OF SEX ON THE FIRST DATE



To most of us, it is a taboo to have sex on the first date. This is as a result of our clture, ideology or say our belive and religion. Almost every culture considers sex as something that should be happening between people who got to know each other very well and fell in love. Nevertheless, many have done it even though they are not in the class of people it is meant for. At this point, let's break the taboo and speak about this big shared secret.


The purpose of this article is to discuss the hidden facts about sex on the first date, how it can be a good thing, and why it can be a bad thing.


*BARE FACTS*


If you look at it from another perspective you 'ill see that the world is becoming more and more of a place where people have the liberty of experimenting and testing their boundaries. For some, it means that they can enjoy the perks of sexual liberation. They see it as they can involve themselves in sex on the first date without having to wear a scarlet letter, metaphorically speaking. Some people truly enjoy their sexual freedom and feel like a fish in water.


It is quite unfortunate that sometimes these new liberties are not of person's desire. But, the pressure that media put on developing minds might lead a person to believe that they too would take pleasure in living life of the western world say  American Pie character. For these individuals, sex on the first date can become a source of self-loathe and a rather traumatizing experience unlike in Africa where it is seen and regards to as taboo.


When it comes to statistics, somewhere around half of the men say that they had sex on their first date, while only a third of women admitted to the same experience.


Women are expectedly more reluctant to report now waiting at least for their second date to hit the sack. And men could be exaggerating a bit. However, these statistics reveal that having sex with someone you've just met isn't at all rare.


*THE GOOD*


In life everything bad must have a good side of it.Having sex on the first date doesn't have to be all bad. That's why many people are doing it. The reasons are at least twofold. When you look at it from the perspective of sex as such, if you decided to get to it right away, there must have been some serious chemistry going on. Therefore, sex could be amazing!


Moreover, when you have sex with someone you've just met, counterintuitively, there might be less pressure than if you got to know the person better first. In other words, when you wait to have sex with someone, expectations and pressure build up. This could affect your pleasure and performance.


The other pro of having sex on your first date is no one says it has to be a one-night-stand. Yes, it has happened before that people have sex on their first date and then spend decades happily married.


I tell you, there is a good thing about ditching taboos it opens a path for many good things to happen to one without being imprisoned by prejudice.


*THE BAD*


Even the good has the bad side of it and sex on the first date also has its own bad record. It can be an extremely bad experience. The perils are twofold. It bears physical and psychological risks. The obvious one is the risk of sexually transmitted diseases.


There are possibilities of things turning negatively for letting a perfect stranger into your life, remember that what leads to sex is love and that same love can make you reveal where you live, work, or go to have fun to a mare stranger. This could be a dangerous thing to do.


Sometimes sex on the first date is not that consensual. Even in cases when both agreed to it, there might have been some sort of inequality in making the decision. Which means that the other could be in for a major blow to their self-esteem and self-respect.


There is more than one kind of pressure, including subtle ones, like persuasion or lying, and less subtle ones, such as alcohol or drugs. And even when less eager of the partner caves into the pressure, they might feel remorse the day after and suffer psychological consequences.


*THE UGLY*


Back to our statistics. Divide the men into two and one is having sex on their first date, while merely third of women does. Someone needs not to be a mathematician to see something is off here. In other words, women are far cagier when it comes to disclosing this information about themselves. Some will go a long way to conceal they had such an experience.


If at last someone fails to marry his/her date with whom he/she had sex right away, things might become ugly.


It has never been a good idea to keep secrete, and one-night-stands have a way of surfacing when you least need them to.


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This is the reason why you should always be honest about it and stand behind your actions. Especially with your spouse who deserves you to be open and genuine.

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